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Mark wrote:

Nickswitz wrote:Well guys, I got another person to join. She'll be on when Ian puts her through, her name is Zahmbe, be kind of nice, although you don't have to be too nice, she can take it for the most part.

Wait....I forgot to ask.

Is she hot?

She's one of the friends I see as a sister. Does that answer your question?

I don't think he's interested in how you see her.

He should be

And... I'll just leave that convo alone.

But is she a cute sister?

Mikey....that was the turn that started with the phrase, "I do."

Mark wrote:But is she a cute sister?

Mikey....that was the turn that started with the phrase, "I do."

I think that course was set well before that point.

LOL.....you might be right

Mark wrote:But is she a cute sister?

In the I'm gonna stab you kinda way. Thanks to me.

Good afternoon, DITL!!!!!!!!! Ah, and a wonderful Sunday it is, too.

Ah, I need some advice... unfortunately most of my friends are biased and I already know what they will say, lol.

Basically I met this girl three years ago, and told her two years ago I love her. We've been together unofficially since around that time (Sept 2009). Despite this, she has kept me a secret from her family and friends, she used to blank me all the time when we were out drinking with mutual friends (she has changed in that regard, but we rarely go out as a group now).

She lies and lies (one of my MAJOR hates) and knows that I always find out the truth. Then she says she'll stop lying, but then lies about other stuff, and keeps making everything so secretive, its like she has something to hide. I asked her best friend if she was seeing someone else, but she has told her she does want to be with me.

So, 1) if she wants to be with me, why keep us a secret??
2) why keep lying?? Especially when she knows I find out (without even trying, she is that bad at it)!
3) am I a complete mug. I have tried ending things, but she always says she'll stop, or threatens to harm herself, yada yada! This is difficult due to the fact I have a lot of experience with suicidal behaviour (not on my part, long story, but she knows most of it, hence I think she plays on it).

Anyways, if you guys were with someone for two years, and she kept it secret from everyone without giving any reason, and lied, etc etc, would you just tell her where to go??

I know this probably just sounds really dumb to most of you, but I really do love her, and she means the world to me. But if its going nowhere, should I just cut my losses and find a meaningful relationship that has a future?

It's a lot easier to say, "Hell, I'd dump her sorry ass" when you're not the one involved.

#1 - is there a reason she's kept yo a secret from her family? I.e., would they give her static based on your race/religion/creed/left-handedness/whatever? If so, it's eminently more possible to lie to them than to convince them that they're wrong.

#2 - Why? Who knows? You can't find that out from us, only from her. If you do determine to find out, make sure that she's aware that you're trying to obtain information, NOT to accuse or moralize.

#3 - Are yo a complete mug? Yeah, probably, but that's what love does to people.

Spent the day performing and watching at one of the only, certainly one of the best,l College Marching Band exhibitions in the country. We had college bands from throughout PA as well as up and down the East Coast. Special note to Mikey: The Rutgers band was pretty impressive.

Really? Last few years, they've sucked like an Electrolux... only with less volume. We can't make Homecoming this year, but my wife and sis-in-law usually go march with the band alumni when they're invited on the field with the current band - my wife usually ends up having to teach a few things to the current guard instructor.

Well, for size and sound quality they were pretty impressive. Compared to my smaller school