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Post by **Tsukiyumi** » Sun May 04, 2008 10:22 am

Reliant121 wrote:She is if i have anything to say about it!

Make sure not to push too hard, though, brother. The idea is to get them to believe it's their idea...

On an unrelated note, I almost got engaged last night...

Today, she's very unsure, and probably going back to her verbally abusive boyfriend. She has a number of reasons, not the least of which is my financial status... It sucks because she's a good person, and I care about her dearly, but I won't pressure her into it if she doesn't want to do it (it was her idea, BTW).

Sionnach Glic · Post by **Sionnach Glic** » Sun May 04, 2008 12:47 pm

Reliant: Good to hear they're okay.

Tsu: A pity, but good luck!

Aaron · Post by **Aaron** » Sun May 04, 2008 1:22 pm

Reliant121 wrote:She is if i have anything to say about it!

I don't want to rain on your parade but don't expect anything. Addiction is a powerful thing and if I were you I would go in expecting the guy to make a step back for every step forward he takes for quite a while. I spent four years as both a morphine and alcohol addict and I had to practically lose everything I cared about to go clean.

By all means be supportive and do whatever you can to help but don't expect a 180 overnight.

Post by **Teaos** » Sun May 04, 2008 1:44 pm

And from what I hear Heroine is by far the worst for addiction. You almost have to get an addiction to something else to get off it.

Reliant121 · Post by **Reliant121** » Sun May 04, 2008 1:46 pm

I dont know whether it will mean anything. She recieves regular beatings from another guy and...it helped her cope with the pain. All i can do is try to be there for her..

and i was trying to lighten the mood Â¬Â¬

Aaron · Post by **Aaron** » Sun May 04, 2008 2:03 pm

Reliant121 wrote:I dont know whether it will mean anything. She recieves regular beatings from another guy and...it helped her cope with the pain. All i can do is try to be there for her..

and i was trying to lighten the mood Â¬Â¬

I would lay money on if she doesn't escape from the abuse that she'll continue to use heroin.

Post by **Teaos** » Sun May 04, 2008 2:16 pm

She either escapes phyiscally by leaving or mentally by using.

Aaron · Post by **Aaron** » Sun May 04, 2008 2:20 pm

Teaos wrote:She either escapes phyiscally by leaving or mentally by using.

Exactly. And the most frustrating part about it is that she won't leave or stop until she is ready, there's very little you can do to bring it about. The harder you push the more they want to continue.

Reliant121 · Post by **Reliant121** » Thu May 08, 2008 3:48 pm

great...last week been on the SAT's

Sionnach Glic · Post by **Sionnach Glic** » Thu May 08, 2008 4:41 pm

Sucks. Do well?

Reliant121 · Post by **Reliant121** » Thu May 08, 2008 5:24 pm

Unknown. I think i did okay in the maths exams (6-8 mental maths paper was easy as hell). And i think i did fairly well with english (hand murdered though

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Just the science papers to go. They'll be a doddle compared to the other ones...but 2 hours stuck in a stuffy Gym doing exams...omg

Sionnach Glic · Post by **Sionnach Glic** » Thu May 08, 2008 5:27 pm

Well, good luck with the science.

Post by **Mikey** » Thu May 08, 2008 5:50 pm

Reliant - watching someone close to you spiral downward in a heroin addiction is one of the hardest things you can ever watch - I've seen it, and only Kendall (AFAIK) here can speak more directly to that fact. Unfortunately, it takes a lot more than just a desire to quit. Even more unfortunately, it may come to the point that doing your utmost to help may mean being forceful enough to have her lost to you as a friend.

The good news is that if she can get clean with enough help, it could very literally save her life.

Reliant121 · Post by **Reliant121** » Thu May 08, 2008 6:02 pm

Rochey wrote:Well, good luck with the science.

grazie..

and...thanks Mikey...i cant help it...i have the annoying quality of infectious must-help-everyone-ness....

Post by **Mikey** » Thu May 08, 2008 6:53 pm

It's a wonderfully annoying habit to have.

The downside in this case is that some sacrifice will most likely need to be made to acheive a greater success. I hope this doesn't sound too hackneyed, but hopefully the personal and thankless knowledge of what good deeds you have attempted will suffice.