What's the latest in people's lives?

[Aaron]

Holy crap that's huge!

[IntrepidPrincess]

You NEED a tripod to hold that, regardless of the shutterspeed! Cool though.

[Nickswitz]

My dad wants a lens like that...

[Reliant121]

God thats more like a small tank barrel than a fricken lense

[Tsukiyumi]

Holy crap that's huge!

That's what she sa...

Never mind.


@Grundig - Valerian Root is a natural herb that work as a remedy for anxiety/panic attacks. For depression, I don't know. St. John's Wort used to be the go-to herb for that, but I've heard about some negative side-effects recently.

[Angharrad]

My new camera lens, and what it looks like on my camera It's a pro class zoom lens with 100-400mm focal lengths. It cost be £850 on eBay (about $1377) .

[Angharrad]

@Grundig - Valerian Root is a natural herb that work as a remedy for anxiety/panic attacks. For depression, I don't know. St. John's Wort used to be the go-to herb for that, but I've heard about some negative side-effects recently.

St. John's Wort can make you photo-sensitive (sun-burn easily)

I try to stay away from herbs because of my many allergies.

[Tyyr]

Does that thing take pictures or fire anti-tank missiles?

[Mikey]

Does that thing take pictures or fire anti-tank missiles?

I was just about to ask if that was a Nikon, or an Oerlikon.

[Mikey]

@ Grundig: Yes, there is true love. No, you can never be sure until after the fact.

Anti-depressants may or may not help you, but your GF is not the person to decide that. A qualified, uninvolved psychiatric MD is the person to help you with that determination.

Perhaps you have gotten into a rut of assuming the worst - it's easy to fall into that pattern. However, you should NEVER be afraid or unwilling to express thoughts independent - even contrary - to hers; that leads to resentment and hatred.

[Tyyr]

I was just about to ask if that was a Nikon, or an Oerlikon.

"Hey guys, take a look at my new TOW camera!"

[Sionnach Glic]

"Say cheese!"

[Mark]

That camera is just what every voyer needs

[Grundig]

@Kendall, Mikey, and Reliant: Thank you for your insight. I agree that nobody's perfect, nor is there a perfect or effortless relationship. I guess the best a person can do is find someone whose "baggage" matches yours. (cookie for the reference.)

I also agree wholeheartedly that relationships take lots of work. We have tried couples counseling - we did that for at least a year, then abruptly stopped going, because my girl wasn't comfortable with it, and I didn't feel right forcing her. She seemed to feel that it was mostly for my benefit, which was a confusing notion. I also went to individual counseling for over a year, to help with my anxiety and various other issues that I do indeed struggle with. I feel we have put tremendous effort into this relationship, both individually and as a couple. And we've occasionally gotten close to where we want to be, but for the rest of the time, neither one of us are truly happy. To boil it down, I don't think either one of us should have to change who we are any more than we already have - there's nothing seriously wrong with us individually. I just don't think we're a good enough match. If there's no such thing as a perfect match, there's got to be such a thing as "good enough match" right? It's just difficult delineating what is good enough when you're in the middle of the relationship you're trying to assess. I made the mistake of getting into this relationship before I really knew who I was, who I wanted to be, and who I wanted to be with. So I've had to try and figure those things out on the fly, while also trying to keep my girl happy.

I think the bottom line is that the source of our unhappiness is a confusing mixture of romantic incompatibility coupled with individual dissatisfaction in our own lives. Even if I took happy pills and didn't get so defensive around my girl, I still don't think I'd feel close enough to her. Maybe I will take happy pills some time, but I really don't want to do it so it will save the relationship.

I won't keep plastering this topic with my bitching and moaning, but I'm glad I brought this up, and I thank you all for your thoughts. It's helpful to get it all out.

[Angharrad]

I'm not so excited about my new camera now.

On another front, our intern, who is from Egypt gave my very annoying co-worker a Hookah. Maybe if he gets high he'll leave me alone.